What is your energy attracting? A real-life approach to vibrational alignment
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What is your energy attracting?
The idea of “energy” gets talked about a lot.
You’ve probably heard some version of “raise your vibration” or “you attract what you are,” and maybe part of you understands it… but another part of you isn’t quite sure what that actually looks like in real life.
That disconnect is more common than people admit.
Because most of the time, energy isn’t something you think about.
It’s something you’re already living inside of.
When things feel off (but you can’t explain why)
There are seasons where life just feels heavier.
Conversations take more effort. Decisions feel harder than they should. Even small things seem to require more energy than usual.
It’s easy to assume something external needs to change.
But sometimes, nothing around you has actually shifted.
The subtle difference that changes everything
One of the most overlooked parts of personal growth is this:
The same life can feel completely different depending on the state you’re in while you’re living it.
That doesn’t always show up in obvious ways.
It’s not necessarily what you’re doing—it’s how you’re experiencing what you’re doing.
And that’s where energy starts to become less abstract and more practical.
Why “fixing it” doesn’t always work
When something feels off, the instinct is usually to fix it.
To think through it, analyze it, or try to shift into a better mindset as quickly as possible.
But that approach can create more tension than clarity.
Because it skips over something important.
The role of awareness
Before anything changes externally, there’s a moment internally that often gets missed.
It’s the moment where you notice how you feel.
Not to judge it. Not to override it.
Just to recognize it.
That awareness is what creates space.
And that space changes how you respond next.
Alignment isn’t what most people think
A lot of people associate alignment with ease.
If things are flowing, if everything is working out, if it feels light and effortless, then it must be aligned.
But that’s only part of the picture.
Alignment also shows up in how you move through moments that don’t feel easy.
It shows up in your ability to stay connected to yourself when things feel uncertain, off, or unresolved.
The question that shifts everything
Instead of asking how to fix what’s happening, try asking something slightly different:
What am I bringing into this moment?
That question doesn’t require an immediate answer.
It creates awareness.
And awareness is where everything starts to shift.
Want to go deeper?
In this week’s episode of The Life with Liz, I walk through what this actually looks like in real life.
Not as a concept but as something you can recognize in your everyday experience.
If you’ve ever felt like you understand personal growth but still find yourself reacting in ways that don’t fully align with that understanding, this episode will connect the dots.
🎙️ Listen to the full episode below
If you’ve been feeling that gap between what you know and how you’re actually showing up in your life, I also created a free training that walks you through how to hear your intuition in a really honest and open way.
Episode transcript:
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Welcome to The Life with Liz Podcast, the place to be if you wanna go from invisible to vibrant in your life and embrace the power you didn't know you had inside of you. I'm your host, Liz Fleming, business owner, mom, military spouse, entrepreneur, founder, CEO, and life coach, who is passionate about helping ambitious women like you step into their power and their purpose on purpose so they can experience as much joy, success, satisfaction, and abundance as humanly possible. Now without further ado, let's dive right into this episode.
Hey, friend. I didn’t always think about energy in a way that felt real or applicable to my life. For a long time, energy sounded like one of those words that was just for energy drinks.
Just for drinks.
I’m like, what is energy? What the hell are you guys talking about?
It was easy to talk about, but harder to actually connect to.
You hear phrases about raising your vibration or attracting what you desire, and while they can sound appealing, they don’t always translate into something you can recognize in your day-to-day experience, and that’s how it felt for me as a complete newbie to this stuff many years ago.
So, if this stuff is completely new to you, and that’s how you’re vibing, I get it, girl.
But what shifted wasn’t that I suddenly understood a new idea. I didn’t just master quantum physics and all this stuff right out of the gate.
It was that I just started noticing patterns in my own life that I couldn’t ignore anymore, and the more that I noticed, the better I got to know myself, and that is where the learning, the deepest learning, took shape.
And there were certain seasons where everything felt heavier than it should have.
Ugh, we’ve all been there.
Conversations didn’t flow the way they normally would, or decisions felt more complicated than necessary, and even simple tasks seemed to require more effort than they should have.
And at first, I looked outward for an explanation.
I was like, ugh, Mercury’s in fucking retrograde, that must be it!
And I’m sure sometimes that’s the case, but I tried to figure out what was happening. What needed to change, or what I could fix to make things feel easier again, and all the time, how I could stop making mistakes.
And over time, my attention moved somewhere else, naturally.
So, instead of focusing on what was happening around me and to me, I started paying closer attention to how I was showing up with what was happening for me.
And that’s when I began to notice something I hadn’t fully seen before.
The difference wasn’t always in what I was doing, it was in how I felt while I was doing it! Ka-ching! I wish I had a soundboard. Man, that’d be sweet.
There were days where everything felt open and steady.
I was vibe and the vibe.
I moved through my life with a sense of such clarity and presence that made even ordinary moments feel grounded.
I have an insane, abnormal amount of ambition.
It’s exhausting.
And I just am very imaginative. I have a very active imagination.
So you can see how I would approach days, being like, zing diddy, this is great!
But then there were other days where that same life felt completely different.
My thoughts moved too fast, my reactions felt sharper, and there was a subtle disconnection that was hard to explain, but was easy to feel.
So what stood out was that external circumstances weren’t always changing, but my internal state was.
And that realization shifted how I understood energy.
Specifically, my energy.
Which is important.
It stopped feeling like this big, elaborate, abstract thing that I just see on soda cans, and it started feeling practical.
And energy isn’t something you perform for a moment. It’s the state you’re living inside of as you move through every moment of your day.
Every moment.
And you can say the right things, follow the steps you’ve learned, and approach those situations with the best of intentions, like we talked about in the last episode. But if your internal state feels very unsettled and you’re not processing your emotions, you’re constantly suppressing, and you’re not listening to yourself, that’s what you bring into your interactions, your decisions, and your experiences.
You attract more stuff like that, and that is icky.
We do not want that.
And that doesn’t mean anything is wrong.
It also doesn’t mean you need to push away what you’re feeling or force yourself into a better mood.
That’s not what I’m getting at.
I think for a long time I thought emotional regulation meant just getting rid of anything that felt uncomfortable.
No negative emotions allowed here, negative is bad, not allowed to feel, must feel good.
I assumed I just needed to stay positive or shift my mindset as quickly as possible.
And it made me manic.
It was just maddening.
And what I’ve come to understand is that it’s much more about self-awareness than control.
And when something comes up, whether it’s frustration, doubt, or tension, or I’m triggered, the first step is simply noticing it.
Without immediately trying to figure it out, or override it, or shove it away.
Just giving yourself a moment to recognize what you’re feeling changes the moment and how you relate to it.
It’s almost like, from my experience, when I notice the emotions that I’m having and I’m there with them, that alone neutralizes them.
And you’ll feel it the more you do it.
But just allowing yourself that moment to recognize what you’re feeling changes everything.
And from there, you have a choice.
You can stay in that reaction, and you can spiral, and let it carry you, and alter your whole day, or you can shift your attention just enough to meet yourself in a better place.
That shift doesn’t come from just pretending everything is fine.
It comes from choosing a response that feels a bit more chill. A bit more grounded.
Slightly more supportive, kinder to yourself, even if the situation itself hasn’t changed.
Often in those times, when you’re feeling a negative emotion, at least for me, I consciously have that awareness.
I’m like, I’m having this feeling, I feel really irritated by this.
And then I say to myself, I choose to feel good.
I choose for this not to impact my entire day.
Or this entire moment.
I choose not to waste my precious energy and time on this.
And again, just by noticing that, it happens in a matter of seconds, neutralizes, and helps me process the emotion.
And then I can revisit it later, when I have more time, and I’m like, why did that bother me?
It’s not about just shoving it all away.
You definitely want to remember that emotions are information, which is something I’ve talked a lot about here on the podcast. Very important.
But anywho, I digress.
So, that shift doesn’t come from pretending everything is fine.
It’s just coming from a place of feeling more supportive for yourself.
And that’s what raises your energy in a way that actually sticks, right? It holds.
Not forcing the toxic positivity. It’s not like you’re having a bad moment, and you’re like, oh my god, I need to get out my list of affirmations, and I need to say them all so I stop feeling this way.
That’s not how it works.
Though I love my affirmations, we want to say them from a good energy.
But instead, it’s about allowing yourself to move toward a better feeling state with awareness.
So, I forget who said this. If it was Abraham Hicks, I think it is, yes.
Think of the better thought.
Just get to the next level of emotion.
If you’re feeling doubt, I want you to get not necessarily right to hope. That’s a big gap, but just a step higher.
Stuff like that really helps me. I can’t remember what book that was. I’ll link it in the show notes when I remember, but beautiful resource there.
Anyway, once I started paying attention to that kind of thing, I saw how it showed up in small, everyday moments.
The way I entered a conversation influenced how it unfolded, and it also influenced who kept showing up in my life, and who naturally faded away.
The way I approached a decision either created clarity, or it made things feel way more complicated than they needed to be.
Which was also a tell, not for me. Not now.
The energy I brought into my work shaped whether things felt like they were flowing or being forced.
That was a huge one for me.
And at that point, the goal wasn’t to control what happened next.
It was, again, to notice my patterns.
The patterns that were already there.
And when you begin to notice your patterns, it’s really breathtaking.
Really, it really is.
And I’m still working on my own. My own conditioning, old conditioning.
But once you notice your patterns, just being with them is enough to start shifting them.
So that’s where this idea of vibrational energy started to feel more aligned for me.
There’s a big difference between, and a very noticeable difference, between trying to shift your energy and actually feeling settled in yourself, feeling at home with yourself.
One comes with effort and a sense that you need to change something quickly.
I need to change, I need to fix myself, I’m broken.
The other carries a steadiness that allows you to just be yourself, to stay fully present, even when things aren’t going the way you imagined.
And when you feel at home in yourself like that, your attention changes.
You are less focused on what needs to be fixed, and more aware of what’s already happening.
You move with a different kind of pace, and it’s not driven by urgency.
Your life isn’t ending. You’re not running out of time. You just feel at peace.
You have that sense of self-trust that’s like, I’m good.
That shift doesn’t remove challenges, but it changes how you experience them, because you get stronger every single time.
Every single time.
And situations that once felt so overwhelming don’t carry the same weight.
It’s really cool to look back on, because you’re not meeting them from the same place.
You’re stronger.
You’re elevated, you’re more aligned.
The times that I’ve looked back on my old triggers, I’m like, man, road rage used to really be a thing for me, and now I’m just like, whatever, man.
We’ll get to the same light.
Yeah, always happens.
Anyway, I digress.
This is where things like manifestation start to connect in a way that actually makes sense.
And manifestation, this is what I’m talking about. That’s what all this is.
I love talking about manifestation. I think it’s a loaded term that people hear, and they’re like, oh, that’s too woo, it’s too witchy.
And I’m like, well, it’s been written on caves for millennia, so here we are.
Anyway, I love it deeply. It is changing my life.
And this is where manifestation starts to actually make sense, because it’s less about trying to create a specific outcome, and more about recognizing that your experience is shaped by how you’re showing up with it.
Yeah?
Your energy influences what you notice.
And what you notice, that’s what we call your reticular activating system.
And it helps you respond.
And that energy shows up for you, and what you move toward, and what you allow to continue, and over time, those patterns create the direction that your life takes.
You create new habits.
Healthier habits.
And that doesn’t mean you need to feel aligned every second of every day.
That’s not realistic, and it’s not the goal.
What matters is your awareness of it.
When you can recognize when something feels off without immediately trying to figure it out, you create space to respond differently.
And when you can come back to yourself without needing everything around you to change first, your experience begins to shift in a more sustainable way.
That’s where the real change happens.
It’s not found in chasing a different outcome or a different situation.
It’s found in changing how you relate to what’s already in front of you.
And as that becomes more familiar, something else starts to shift.
You stop feeling like you’re constantly trying to create your life, and you begin to feel more connected to the one you’re already living, and that, my friends, is how you manifest awesome shit.
All the time.
It’s really, really, really beautiful.
So, they call it light work for a reason. I’ve said that many times on the podcast, in the book.
This type of personal growth and personal development, it’s called light work for a reason, not take a vacation.
There’s gonna be times where it’s really hard, but I want you to see it from the awareness of you’re learning something that is making you so much stronger and so much wiser.
The universe is literally equipping you for what’s to come. All the beauty that’s to come.
And I think that’s really what keeps me going, is just knowing that I’m shifting, and transforming and making progress every second of every day, simply by allowing myself to be in my awareness, to notice, to embrace my emotions, and to work on myself in a way that is not shameful, right?
In a way that shows that I truly love myself, and that is the power of the work that I do, that’s why I do what I do.
So, yeah, here we are.
And if this resonates with you, I definitely share more in my free live training, which I talked about at the end of almost every episode, because that’s what you’re supposed to do, Liz.
But it’s true, I really do feel like I love to give you all approachable, useful, valuable information here on the podcast, on my blog, but I just always want you to know that you can take your learning further with me.
If you wish, if you want to start really reconnecting with yourself in a way that actually sticks and helps you change your habits in everyday life, and it’s not just this fleeting, shiny object syndrome, because that’s where I felt like I started.
So, the work really matters, and it really makes a difference.
The more you prioritize yourself, the better life gets, and that’s for good reason.
You deserve it.
So, you can find everything linked in the show notes, as always, but for now, stay present with what’s in front of you.
And just frickin’ love yourself, man.
You’re so awesome.
And I don’t know if anyone’s told you this lately, but I’m gonna say it again and again.
You are amazing.
You are already incredible, and the more you accept yourself for who you already are, the better.
Life.
I’ll see you next time.
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