How to hear your intuition and trust it
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How to trust your intuition
There’s a moment that happens more often than most people realize.
You feel something clearly. A quiet pull in one direction or a hesitation in another. It’s immediate, almost instinctive, and for a second there’s no confusion.
Then your mind steps in.
You start analyzing, questioning, searching for a more logical explanation. Within minutes, that initial clarity softens into uncertainty.
It’s easy to assume the uncertainty means the original feeling wasn’t reliable.
More often, it means you didn’t stay with it long enough to let it stand on its own.
Intuition doesn’t disappear
A lot of people describe feeling disconnected from themselves.
They’ll say they don’t know what they want anymore or that they’ve lost their sense of direction, as if something essential has gone missing.
What’s usually happening is quieter than that.
The signal is still there.
The relationship to it has changed.
Instead of responding to that initial knowing, it becomes something you question, explain away, or replace with something that feels easier to justify.
Over time, that creates distance.
Not because intuition left, but because it stopped being trusted.
Why trust breaks down
Most of us were taught to rely on reasoning.
We learned to make decisions that could be explained, defended, or understood by other people. That kind of thinking has value, but it can quietly pull you away from your internal awareness.
When something doesn’t come with a clear explanation, it can feel harder to trust.
So instead of sitting with it, you look for confirmation elsewhere.
Eventually, that becomes the default.
The role of noise
Another piece of this is how much input we’re constantly surrounded by.
When your attention is always moving between conversations, content, and responsibilities, it becomes harder to notice anything subtle.
Intuition doesn’t compete for attention.
It tends to show up in quieter moments, which are often the first to disappear in a full day.
What most people try instead
When something feels off, the instinct is usually to figure it out.
To think it through, gather more information, or get a second opinion.
That approach can feel productive, but it often skips over the moment where clarity was already present.
Relearning how to notice
Reconnecting with your intuition doesn’t require a major life change.
It starts with paying attention to what’s already happening.
There are small moments throughout the day where you feel a clear preference, a sense of ease, or a subtle resistance before you’ve had time to explain it.
Those moments are easy to overlook.
They’re also where everything begins to shift.
What builds trust over time
Trust isn’t rebuilt through one decision.
It develops gradually, through repetition.
Each time you acknowledge what you feel and allow it to matter, even in small ways, you strengthen that connection.
Each time you move past it, the pattern continues in the other direction.
A simpler way to look at it
There’s a tendency to turn self-trust into something you need to master.
In reality, it’s much simpler than that.
It starts with slowing down enough to notice your own response and letting that response have a place in your decision-making.
Over time, that changes how you relate to yourself.
What once felt unclear starts to feel more grounded—not because everything is certain, but because you’re no longer disconnected from your own perspective.
Want to go deeper?
In this week’s episode of The Life with Liz, I walk through what this looks like in real time. How intuition actually shows up, why it’s easy to override, and how to start rebuilding that connection without overcomplicating it.
🎙️ Listen to the full episode below
If you’ve been feeling that gap between what you know and how you’re actually showing up in your life, I also created a free training that walks you through how to hear your intuition in a really grounded way.
Episode transcript:
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Welcome to The Life with Liz Podcast, the place to be if you wanna go from invisible to vibrant in your life and embrace the power you didn't know you had inside of you. I'm your host, Liz Fleming, business owner, mom, military spouse, entrepreneur, founder, CEO, and life coach, who is passionate about helping ambitious women like you step into their power and their purpose on purpose so they can experience as much joy, success, satisfaction, and abundance as humanly possible. Now without further ado, let's dive right into this episode.
There are certain things I know I will completely regret if I don’t do them.
You feel me?
I’m not talking about the obvious decisions or the ones that look good from the outside. Not the achievements, the accolades. I’m talking about the chiller moments, the quieter moments.
The ones that don’t always make sense on paper, but they feel really clear and energizing somewhere deeper inside.
The times I felt something strongly and still chose to move past it. The ideas that stayed in my head instead of allowing myself to explore them. The conversations that I avoided, even though something in me said they mattered.
That’s the stuff I think about.
And there’s a kind of clarity that doesn’t demand your attention, and that’s part of why it’s so easy to miss. It doesn’t arrive fully formed or carefully explained.
More often, it shows up as a subtle shift in your body or a feeling that lands before you’ve had time to think it through.
For a moment, it’s subtle. It’s simple.
Then your mind steps in and starts asking questions and poking and prodding and prying, and you begin to think about what it means, how it will be received, whether it’s the right choice. And by the time you’ve worked through all that, the original feeling has faded into the background.
You can’t feel it anymore.
And that pattern is what I keep coming back to. Because I don’t want to get to the end of my life… I don’t know about you, but I certainly don’t want to get to the end of my life and realize that I spent too much of it explaining away what I already knew.
Full of regret.
And I don’t think I’m alone in that.
Most women, from what I’ve seen, or from those I’ve helped, or who have approached me, or in my orbit… they aren’t lost in the way they think they are.
They’re not lacking direction or missing something essential.
What they’re experiencing is disconnection.
And it’s that quieter, subtler kind of disconnection. Somewhere along the way, they stopped relying on their own internal guidance, their own internal navigation system.
But the truth is, that guidance never actually leaves.
And it’s not only meant for those of us who are gifted or special.
Everyone is offered this guidance. We all have access to it. It just becomes harder to recognize when it’s competing with everything else.
From a young age, many of us were taught to prioritize logic over feeling.
And approval over alignment, especially women in today’s society.
We learned how to make decisions that could be explained, justified, validated, and understood by other people.
Over time, that becomes second nature. That becomes your habit.
Instead of checking in with ourselves first, we start looking outward for confirmation. For approval, validation, whatever you want to call it.
We go outward.
And from the outside, that can look stable.
It’s great to ask for support and feedback. I’m all for that. But when you’re giving all of your power away, you silence yours.
Internally, it often feels slightly off, even if nothing is obviously wrong in your life.
You just feel it.
And here’s the part that can be difficult to admit.
Most women can sense when something doesn’t feel right. It’s our inherent nature as human beings.
You notice tension in your body. You recognize when you’re agreeing to something that doesn’t fully align.
There is an awareness there.
What gets in the way is what happens next.
That initial clarity rarely exists on its own for long. It’s usually followed by a wave of emotion that shifts how we respond to it.
For example, fear tends to come first.
It swoops in, and it often sounds practical. It raises questions about whether the decision is safe, whether it could disrupt something important, or whether it might lead to an outcome you can’t control.
Failure.
Instead of moving with that original sense of knowing, you start to hesitate because of that fear, because of all those what-ifs about things that haven’t even happened yet, or that possibly never will.
And as that hesitation builds, your mind begins trying to get ahead of the situation.
You start imagining different outcomes, different scenarios, running through the possibilities, and attempting to prevent anything from going wrong.
Gosh, is that relatable?
Yeah.
And by that point, your focus has completely shifted away from what you initially felt.
What your body, your intuition, originally signaled to you.
And instead, you’re moving toward what may or may not happen.
That’s where doubt starts to take hold.
It can feel like you’re being thoughtful or thorough, but underneath that is a growing distance from the clarity you had just moments before.
So you start looking for proof, comparison, or reassurance to confirm what you’ve already sensed.
And then guilt can layer in there as well, especially when your instincts don’t align with someone else’s expectations.
I’ve always been a big dreamer, so this one… girl, I get it.
Choosing yourself can feel complicated when it affects other people or changes dynamics that have been in place for a long time.
And my friend, I just want to say, none of these responses are wrong.
They’re human. They’re trying to protect you.
At the same time, they can make it really hard to stay connected to that original signal of your intuition.
Which is the greatest force that you have in this living body.
And it’s not because it went away or disappeared, but simply because it’s been covered by everything that followed.
And this is where things start to feel confusing.
It can seem like you don’t know what to do, when in reality there are just too many layers between you and what you initially felt.
Too many layers. Too many excuses.
It’s like you’ve completely talked yourself out of the thing, when you originally felt really excited and energized by it.
That’s why this work isn’t about chasing clarity.
It’s about learning how to stay true to who you are. Stick with yourself.
Intuition doesn’t only show up during major life decisions, either. It’s present in the smaller, everyday moments that shape your life over time.
Something inside of me is telling me to leave a couple minutes later today… and then you realize you missed something.
Or something inside of me is like, I’m not going to have that glass of wine tonight.
It can be used for all of these little moments in life.
I use it for everything in my day-to-day life, as a human, as a parent, as a professional.
It influences how you respond, what you choose, and where you place your energy.
And that is so powerful.
That is a power that so many of you have not yet chosen to unlock.
Because the choice is always there, and the choice is always yours.
Those little moments may not seem significant on their own, but they build a foundation of self-trust.
There’s a common assumption that listening to your intuition requires a dramatic shift.
Some people imagine it means walking away from everything, being reckless, uprooting your life, or becoming someone completely different.
That hasn’t been my experience.
What I’ve found is that it creates more stability, not less.
And when you’re not constantly overriding yourself, there’s a steadiness that starts to develop.
You feel more present, more honest, and more connected to what you’re doing.
It also frees up a surprising amount of energy.
Trying to suppress what you feel takes so much effort, especially when it happens over and over again throughout the day.
Moving in alignment with yourself creates so much more space instead.
And when you start paying attention in this way, something shifts.
And those shifts continue. It’s a continuous process.
You stop labeling yourself as confused or indecisive quite so quickly.
And you begin to recognize that the clarity was there, even if it didn’t feel safe to act on at the time.
The decision was clear because of your inner guidance.
And that’s where the real change begins.
For me, this didn’t happen all at once.
It came from those moments, those decisions that I made over and over again to trust myself more than I relied on other people or external approval.
And that shift changed how I approached everything.
Every decision.
I stopped needing immediate validation. I became less focused on explaining my instincts, and more willing to follow them.
Because it felt aligned for me.
And that doesn’t mean everything feels easy all the time.
There are still moments where intuition leads you into uncertainty and asks you to make choices that feel uncomfortable.
But what it offers is this sense of freedom.
And clarity.
Reconnecting with that clarity doesn’t require doing more, being more, or having more.
It just starts with being here now.
Creating space for yourself.
Not in a big, dramatic way, just enough to notice what’s already there.
And when you slow down, even briefly, you begin to pick up on what you’re feeling beneath the noise.
And that awareness builds over time.
That awareness is so key.
So what I’m getting at here is that you don’t need to become someone else to access your intuition.
You already have it.
You don’t need to overhaul your entire life to begin listening again.
What matters is your willingness to stay with yourself long enough to hear what’s true for you.
You can start today. Start now. Start listening.
What does your intuition feel like?
What physical feelings do you get in your body when you’re presented with a decision and it’s a full-body yes?
And when you’re presented with something that feels off… listen to that too.
That is also your intuition.
And if that connection has felt distant, that’s okay.
Nothing about it is broken.
You’re just learning to rebuild a relationship with yourself that has always existed.
You’ve got to work the muscle.
And it gets stronger the more you practice it.
So my friend, if this is something you’ve been starting to notice in your own life, that gap between what you know and how you actually feel day to day…
That’s the work that we do inside of my programs.
And you can start with my free training, Step Into Your Power.
But for now, I want you to just start with awareness.
That alone will take you further than you know.
I’ll see you next time.
Did that go by too fast? No worries. You can always find me over at elisabethfleming.com for more information about my programs, events, and how you can take your learning further with me. If you loved this episode, leave a review. It helps more than you know.
Thank you so much for tuning in. I'll catch you next time.
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